Grief is one of the hardest things in life to cope with, in my opinion. It seems that even though you’re devastated by loss, the rest of the world keeps moving. You feel as though your being left behind.
There will be good days and bad days. Everyone handles grief differently. The holidays always seem the hardest. We, as well as pets, grieve. They can be less active and lay around, or sometimes they act out with destructive behavior.
Each day is different. Sometimes you may be fine and the next, something triggers a memory and makes you sad. With pets, as they are involved in our daily lives, it’s especially hard when they are no longer there. It’s the smallest things such as feeding time, not being greeted at the door, not having them wait patiently outside the bathroom door while you get ready, finding a hidden toy, or having their picture pop up on social media. However, it’s important to harness these memories. As long as you remember the good times and what you loved most about your pet, they will always be with you.
There are stages everyone goes through during our healing process. If something happens to a loved one or pet suddenly, shock and denial occurs. When things are beyond our control, we get mad about our pet being taken away from us. When the anger subsides, it makes way for guilt. Could I have done more or something to prevent this? Then there is an overwhelming sadness and depression.
These are all part of the normal grieving process. Talking to friends, family members, a pastor, or grief counselor may be necessary if you are struggling to cope with loss. There is a great support center for chat and reading at https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/Grief_Support_Center/Grief_Support_Home.htm .
In conclusion, loss is never easy. Take it one day at a time and make sure to find someone to talk to if and when you need support.